Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about how easy it is to push our emotions aside in the name of “being strong.” I’ve watched myself and others do it, and it’s draining. This post is a gentle reminder, both to you and to me, that vulnerability isn’t weakness. It’s necessary. It’s healing. It’s human.
This topic of vulnerability has been on my mind since January. Not just the idea of opening up, but the need to genuinely process what we feel. Many of us don’t know how to handle emotions; we suppress them, avoid them, or label them as distractions. But the truth is, emotional suppression only delays the healing process.
Give people grace. But more importantly, give yourself grace too. There’s no award for who hides it best.
Take out your time to process your emotions before trauma finishes you. Because if you don’t, even the slightest memory of whatever made you feel that way will ick you, trigger you, and haunt you when you least expect it.
Just stopping by to remind you: if you keep avoiding emotional stability and brushing things off like they don’t matter, a time may come when it all crashes down, and you might not be able to handle it.
Even as far as masking up your feelings with laughter. It’s a very dangerous coping mechanism. Your brain can go on a forced factory reset, man.
Laughter may be a cover, but it doesn’t heal what’s really going on beneath.
Now, I would’ve said “withdraw,” but then it might worsen the process of your healing. Healing is beautiful, to be very honest.
When you withdraw, you become overwhelmed and drown in your sadness. In all, do what works for you with trusted friends. You don’t have to do life alone.
Cheers to everyone going through one thing or another. This phase too shall pass.
For whatever reason, choose emotional stability. Please, don’t dwell in your pain. Don’t!
Take all the time you need to heal. Even Jesus didn’t mask His feelings; He poured it all out to the Father in the Garden of Gethsemane.
If you're an overthinker or someone who tends to get anxious more easily, this is for you too.
Take time to process your emotions.
Yes, I know the amount of “what ifs.”
It’s fine. It’s all gone now.
Just learn the lessons, and move on.
Be real with God. He super, super cares about your emotions. You don’t have to pretend or filter how you feel in His presence. Come as you are.
In everything you do, remember this: Jesus absolutely cares about you.
But also, please prioritize your emotional well-being.
You matter. Your healing matters.
Till whenever we meet again,
With love,
Tolu.
Feel free to share how you're really doing in the comments. You never know who might find comfort in your words too. Let’s keep this space honest and healing.
I call this the Vulnerability Series. Just 5 episodes; it took me three months to process this!
New episodes drop every Thursday by 8am.
Please share with your friends. Thank you! ❤️
This is very much needed. I can't describe how much I needed this, but you've captured the words I needed in this particular season of my life—words that my mind could not comprehend, but that my heart knew I needed to hear. Thank you so much.